Parenting isn’t for the faint of heart. Friends, we have been 👏🏻 going 👏🏻 through 👏🏻 it👏🏻 with this little lady recently. It’s like a perfect storm of crap– cutting her 2/3 yr old molars, nap strike, separation anxiety… to say it plainly: it blows.
In fact, as I started writing this post I had a sleeping toddler on me in the glider in her nursery that I’ve sat in more in the last 2 weeks than in the last 2.5 years.
It all started about a month ago when my previously wonderfully, gloriously sleep-trained toddler awoke at an ungodly morning hour screaming for me. Since that was so unusual, I darted (funny side note: my autocorrect won’t stop changing that to farted) into her room for her to spring up fresh as a daisy and say, “hi mom!” Like, I’m sorry, I thought you were being kidnapped out of your crib. This continued to be the morning trend for a month.
Naps were pretty much nonexistent all month. She would just stand in her crib and yell. For 90 minutes. I was trying to stick with the routine and still try to have her nap because I 0% believed she was ready to give it up.
3 days ago we magically turned a corner and she went completely back to normal (why 3 days ago? Your guess is as good as mine). But that whole thing was a power play; she’s a formidable opponent. And basically I live with a teeny tiny stalker who actually doesn’t stop following me or touching me or trying to tickle my eyeballs. I ask her 14 times a day why she’s so obsessed with me (picture me as Regina George)
And all the while, I’m not sure what the heck I’m supposed to be doing about any of this. Honestly, that’s one of the hardest things about being a parent– most of the time there’s no easy answer. How do you know how much breastmilk your kid got? (Lookin at you, Linds) You don’t. Is this a nap strike or is she done napping for good or does she need to go to bed later or 563836 other questions about sleep? Who knows. If she wakes up in the middle of the night should I leave her? Got me. Can a child survive on chicken nuggets and Parmesan cheese? (Current dinner) Hopefully.
Every kid is different, and every person who gives you advice (solicited or, more often, not) is going to tell you something different. With E’s sleep problems I was desperate for a clear answer as to why this was happening, and more importantly when it would get better. I became convinced that she had an ear infection because it fit so perfectly. I dragged her to urgent care and that doc didn’t see anything, but obviously Dr. Dana didn’t agree (🙄😂) and brought her for a second opinion (who also didn’t see an infection). Who likes the answer, “I don’t know, maybe it’ll sort itself out.” We like black and white, clear cut answers. And that’s a huge adjustment when you become a parent– you rarely get them. You kind of just do your best and hope you’re not turning your kid into a sociopath.
Thanks for reading, friends! xo